IIUM vs UiTM
I had commence my duty as Assistant Director on 1st October 2009.. after 2 weeks old in Johor Port Authority.. As Sir Jasmindar (iCIMB Sdn. Bhd.) once said.. "Never hope for green grass at the next field". After all, as I reported my duty as Administrative Officer (Research Officer), I can't stop this instinct telling me that I would be only 2 weeks there. Allah knows the best.. He test me to be far away and teach me to become nearer to HIM.
Exactly end of my 2nd week there, I received call from IIUM. I had decided to go because its nearer and it provide me pleasant environment since I am more familiar with the area and places. When my mom told me that I was called by UiTM to be a lecturer.. something in me, rejecting it.. but I decided to give a try.
Out of three candidates whom being interviewed, I am the one who being rejected. Obviously because they see my jobs histories.. Jumping from 1 place to another. How do you expect guys.. Money and secure job, I would prefer secure. I never had luck in UiTM cause I think HE knows that I would not able to deliver the lecture well if I am being placed under this Uni. (some people might know why..)
Next, when I step down my car, I pray to ALLAH, if this is the right place which could help me placed myself well, please let me away from any offer. However, few days back, I was so much pleased that I was called for an assessment at INTAN, Jalan Elmu to be evaluate for my one and only ambition I have and I steadfast to(since I was in Form 1)... you can guess right?
I am preparing myself.. not too prepare.. but trying to do the best. After 2 months old.. Hopefully after I manage to finish preparing proposal on how to enhance service delivery in IIUM, Centre for Postgraduate Studies, I would be cherished by a very good news from INTAN.. Credit to all my friends who make du'a for me.. special credit to Azua Hanim Mohd Said, Aizat Omar, Nor Azurah Muhamad Julaini, Nurulezza Idris, Baba. My lovely friend, Mama Yana.. I hope you still maintain with your current life and be much more better under HIS guidance.. I am overwhelmed with gratitute cause I was thankful that I found you guys..
Please other people who drop into this blog.. pray for me.. My new friends, Shamo and Iz, thanks for your own way of making mylife sweeter and brighter with your friendship.. Hope one day, we'll catch up in real life, InsyaAllah.
May this appreciation reached you guys in a best of health and iman by HIS graceful, InsyaAllah.
Family would be the prior.. Ma, Abah, adik2.. ijat, aji, ayi, nana, ewa and rezza.. Please do not stop praying for me.. May Allah bless you in whatever you are doing..
Love me, love me not.. I still love you guys..
Thursday, November 19, 2009
When the uncertainty caught u by chance
Lately, I was too busy to share my life routine in this blog. This case should be published 2 weeks ago. I was eagerly checking on something in my friend handphone..
Suddenly, she received a message.. I decided not to open it. But she allowed me. I could see her face full of curiosity on who sent the sms. I was too shocked when it comes from people that we could treat as "the entity". This entity had just blew her from his life and now, they are still messaging as such nothing happened.
This sharing blog just for us to learn from experience and try not to spell the same wrong doing. I was a girl that never fall in love seriously towards man.. Of course not to woman.. I am straight.. Usually, I was caught in the situation where I am not able to fall in love and there were obstructions towards it.
Whenever I have the intention, there is something hurdle me. Since I was a kid, I decided to build up my own confident on myself. Any person will not able to bring me down. I always adjusting myself so that I will not feel such bad feelings: frustrated, sad towards people. Therefore, most of my life as I grew older, I try to avoid any human being who might cause destruction to mylife.
I had practicing this long time ago and I am capable enough to gone through the life. In fact, I felt that people who connected to me (in present) are the important things rather than people I knew after my age past 25.
I try my best to preserve my feeling from being hurt. Whenever there are someone out there get to know me. I will always put at least 50% trust on them. Why I am sharing this is because, my friend which I mentioned in the very beginning was a very good girl and this entity had openly take this naive girl into dilemma. Being introduced to each other for couple months. The sms put them into serious long distance relationship and it last few days after they met.
Until now, I just don't get the opportunity to have man talk with him. Perhaps one day, it might happen. People might differ from each other but she always claimed that she could handle it right. But to me, the true observation just telling me this all fake. Please, sometime we need intervention from third party and we have to listen to them.
Think wise and discuss it deliberately with people surround you. It might or might not help. but there is nothing wrong to give a shot on it.
Suddenly, she received a message.. I decided not to open it. But she allowed me. I could see her face full of curiosity on who sent the sms. I was too shocked when it comes from people that we could treat as "the entity". This entity had just blew her from his life and now, they are still messaging as such nothing happened.
This sharing blog just for us to learn from experience and try not to spell the same wrong doing. I was a girl that never fall in love seriously towards man.. Of course not to woman.. I am straight.. Usually, I was caught in the situation where I am not able to fall in love and there were obstructions towards it.
Whenever I have the intention, there is something hurdle me. Since I was a kid, I decided to build up my own confident on myself. Any person will not able to bring me down. I always adjusting myself so that I will not feel such bad feelings: frustrated, sad towards people. Therefore, most of my life as I grew older, I try to avoid any human being who might cause destruction to mylife.
I had practicing this long time ago and I am capable enough to gone through the life. In fact, I felt that people who connected to me (in present) are the important things rather than people I knew after my age past 25.
I try my best to preserve my feeling from being hurt. Whenever there are someone out there get to know me. I will always put at least 50% trust on them. Why I am sharing this is because, my friend which I mentioned in the very beginning was a very good girl and this entity had openly take this naive girl into dilemma. Being introduced to each other for couple months. The sms put them into serious long distance relationship and it last few days after they met.
Until now, I just don't get the opportunity to have man talk with him. Perhaps one day, it might happen. People might differ from each other but she always claimed that she could handle it right. But to me, the true observation just telling me this all fake. Please, sometime we need intervention from third party and we have to listen to them.
Think wise and discuss it deliberately with people surround you. It might or might not help. but there is nothing wrong to give a shot on it.
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
Johor Port Authority.. I am leaving..
Guys, we have 2 days left to gone through the fasting month. Yesterday, I was eagerly and excitedly urged ewa to break fasting at Jusco, Permas Jaya. Perhaps, it’s really challenging when we had accidentally pass the junction we supposed to enter. We caught in a lousy jam area where none of them are considering each other. Is this what they learnt after fasting the whole day? The parking entrance was really confusing as there was other area that using sign and colours which looks similar with Jusco entrance. Again, we had to make one round turn to be at the exact place. And guess what? As we entering the parking lots.. We both just could not covered our shocking feeling when the parking lot only being occupied by several cars… Aisey.. best nyer kalu Mid Valley, Gardens, One Utama, Pavillion, Bukit Bintang, Lot 10 macam ni.
We decided to have our dinner at KFC.. Commercial fast food place. Again, the same things happen. Only 5 tables were sited. After couple minutes, the half of it was fully sited. It seems like we want to have grand shopping here. Slowly take a visit from store to store and finally to the Jusco.. Aisey!! The most boring Jusco in the world.. Only located in 1 floor, all department store are segregate by one tiny walking path.. Erm.. so damn boring and frustrating.. No wonder, there isn’t any signboard promoting the place. Erm.. today, I am trying by hard remember the way to Senibong before left from here. The views offer here are more likely at Muara, Port Klang or Tanjung Piai or KUKUP.. view of port..
Even though the foods do not taste so good and fresh, I just want to feel like in my own place. Kind of phsyco right? Let see in Pokok Kelapa area.. How does it taste? In JPA, I successfully build up group of newcomers consist of Ezat, Zahari, Norzie, Azron, Kamariah and Tuan Rahman. Tuan Rahman really help me on lodging matters when no one are able to assist me on it. Norzie on JPA culture, Ezat on making me calm and steady, Ri makes me enjoying the sadness of being lonely and Kamariah with her nonstop eating style and making my life alive each day. Dear Azron, the one and only guy who always asked me which one is the person whenever he sent a letter at my department.
And few days back, I got to know one guy via JPA email.. hahaha.. erm.. He is quite friendly and Bugise. At least got friend to talk with through this mail chatting. Thanks for giving hand and assistance guys.. and the new guy named Syahkhairul.. hahaha.. I’ve state your name, means no turning back.. Do us part.. Do not lost contact. Faizal was to naïve to talk.. He didn’t talk much and most of the time he would prefer to loiter (lepak) at LIBRARY. Next, Encik Khalid.. the only words come out his mouth each morning was “Morning”. Hakim, used to claim that he was foreigner and breaks the stay air by asking whether I will be going out for lunch during lunch hour. Din, the first man in the department I used to urge in order to fix my quarters. Fida (Rafidah), erm.. reminds me of my friend. Very energetic person. I just regret since I do not have more time to corporate with her as a team. Puan Shasha, never met her since the orientation week. We’ve got few minutes to chat pertaining to my resignation letter.(today).
Liza, would be a pleasant girl whom always there thinking of ways to cheer me up. At last, she insists me to plug in my PC. It do help me girl! Suhanapi (Pi) seems to be serious guy and good in IT. I could not recall the other guy coz he seems not too friendly but I assumed that he is caring person. Next, is wawa person whom usually being misunderstood by Norzie as our friend (Norazwa). She had unpleasant face but very helpful. Sometimes moods. Hahaha.. Encik Khairi, CC helps me on parking and few admin forms. Mona leza.. person I first known when I touch down JPA. She can be considered my junior but my senior in JPA. Haahha.. UM students.. It’s like UM Alumni when she, GM and few more top management comes from University of Malaya. Erm, forgot to mention Kak Ana, the orientation leader, Kak Norini (librarian who lend me her password when I need to surf the net), Kak Mas (counter), Makcik cleaner.. She knew me resigning before Hakim… It do surprise me.. Gossip makcik! Kak Ayu, never chat longer.. Maybe the stay air make me felt uncomfortable with her.. Looks too serious.
Next, at last but not least… finance department. Erm.. Pak Teh, thanks for the stationeries, Kak Zainon for the medical checkup slip but I tend not to waste JPA money by making the medical checkup at Penawar. I will make mine at Govt hospital or at Pusrawi, KL. Kak Nita(Hasnita) the most challenging experience in having her signature during orientation week. She was ok but, but there is one girl interrupting the event. I think she wanted to catch our intention on her.. but she doing it not in a proper way.. How come you trying to make jokes or pulling people legs.. or whatever similar meaning to it by asking some of the newcomers who seems to carry Officer title, by right anyone won’t deserve to be humiliate by asking them to kiss the bottom of your foot! We are not serving you as your slave anyway. Be more cautions and have more humanity touch in your heart.
Now, I was being appointed to be Admin Officer in IIUM under Center for Postgraduate Studies. Who ever need my assistance, do not hesitate to contact me. Nice to be in Johore, at least if one day people ask me ‘bout Johore especially on port matters, I do have ideas on it.. With head held high, I was too proud to announce myself JOHOREAN. Hahaha… I will bring along all the sweet and sweat memories of being a family of JPA.
We decided to have our dinner at KFC.. Commercial fast food place. Again, the same things happen. Only 5 tables were sited. After couple minutes, the half of it was fully sited. It seems like we want to have grand shopping here. Slowly take a visit from store to store and finally to the Jusco.. Aisey!! The most boring Jusco in the world.. Only located in 1 floor, all department store are segregate by one tiny walking path.. Erm.. so damn boring and frustrating.. No wonder, there isn’t any signboard promoting the place. Erm.. today, I am trying by hard remember the way to Senibong before left from here. The views offer here are more likely at Muara, Port Klang or Tanjung Piai or KUKUP.. view of port..
Even though the foods do not taste so good and fresh, I just want to feel like in my own place. Kind of phsyco right? Let see in Pokok Kelapa area.. How does it taste? In JPA, I successfully build up group of newcomers consist of Ezat, Zahari, Norzie, Azron, Kamariah and Tuan Rahman. Tuan Rahman really help me on lodging matters when no one are able to assist me on it. Norzie on JPA culture, Ezat on making me calm and steady, Ri makes me enjoying the sadness of being lonely and Kamariah with her nonstop eating style and making my life alive each day. Dear Azron, the one and only guy who always asked me which one is the person whenever he sent a letter at my department.
And few days back, I got to know one guy via JPA email.. hahaha.. erm.. He is quite friendly and Bugise. At least got friend to talk with through this mail chatting. Thanks for giving hand and assistance guys.. and the new guy named Syahkhairul.. hahaha.. I’ve state your name, means no turning back.. Do us part.. Do not lost contact. Faizal was to naïve to talk.. He didn’t talk much and most of the time he would prefer to loiter (lepak) at LIBRARY. Next, Encik Khalid.. the only words come out his mouth each morning was “Morning”. Hakim, used to claim that he was foreigner and breaks the stay air by asking whether I will be going out for lunch during lunch hour. Din, the first man in the department I used to urge in order to fix my quarters. Fida (Rafidah), erm.. reminds me of my friend. Very energetic person. I just regret since I do not have more time to corporate with her as a team. Puan Shasha, never met her since the orientation week. We’ve got few minutes to chat pertaining to my resignation letter.(today).
Liza, would be a pleasant girl whom always there thinking of ways to cheer me up. At last, she insists me to plug in my PC. It do help me girl! Suhanapi (Pi) seems to be serious guy and good in IT. I could not recall the other guy coz he seems not too friendly but I assumed that he is caring person. Next, is wawa person whom usually being misunderstood by Norzie as our friend (Norazwa). She had unpleasant face but very helpful. Sometimes moods. Hahaha.. Encik Khairi, CC helps me on parking and few admin forms. Mona leza.. person I first known when I touch down JPA. She can be considered my junior but my senior in JPA. Haahha.. UM students.. It’s like UM Alumni when she, GM and few more top management comes from University of Malaya. Erm, forgot to mention Kak Ana, the orientation leader, Kak Norini (librarian who lend me her password when I need to surf the net), Kak Mas (counter), Makcik cleaner.. She knew me resigning before Hakim… It do surprise me.. Gossip makcik! Kak Ayu, never chat longer.. Maybe the stay air make me felt uncomfortable with her.. Looks too serious.
Next, at last but not least… finance department. Erm.. Pak Teh, thanks for the stationeries, Kak Zainon for the medical checkup slip but I tend not to waste JPA money by making the medical checkup at Penawar. I will make mine at Govt hospital or at Pusrawi, KL. Kak Nita(Hasnita) the most challenging experience in having her signature during orientation week. She was ok but, but there is one girl interrupting the event. I think she wanted to catch our intention on her.. but she doing it not in a proper way.. How come you trying to make jokes or pulling people legs.. or whatever similar meaning to it by asking some of the newcomers who seems to carry Officer title, by right anyone won’t deserve to be humiliate by asking them to kiss the bottom of your foot! We are not serving you as your slave anyway. Be more cautions and have more humanity touch in your heart.
Now, I was being appointed to be Admin Officer in IIUM under Center for Postgraduate Studies. Who ever need my assistance, do not hesitate to contact me. Nice to be in Johore, at least if one day people ask me ‘bout Johore especially on port matters, I do have ideas on it.. With head held high, I was too proud to announce myself JOHOREAN. Hahaha… I will bring along all the sweet and sweat memories of being a family of JPA.
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Being far for 2 weeks at Pasir Gudang, Johor
15 September 2009
I’m still sitting at the rejected furniture which hardly to define how uncomfortable I am with this place. Being assigned to a new PC a little bit brighten my day. Today, I was shocked by good news saying that I had passed my PTD examinations after 9 times sitting the examination. However, I won’t dare not to take the opportunity given by IIUM to be part of theirs. I really hope I could improve my conversation in English. I can speak but I have walls confine me. I have lack of confident. People might see I am not too bad but I just can’t help myself to be ashame of my diction. I am so much not me if you met me personally. Even, my immediate boss, Puan Shasha seems not having much confident on me when she tend to ask me whether I can converse in English.
I have to prepare and work hard on it. I want to be a PTD.. MCS!! Malaysian Civil Service. I don’t know whether I am capable enough for this.. But it is my target since I was young… to be government servant. Currently, I was 1 month old at Johor Port Authority.. Try to adjusting myself with government culture. What I can say, I was stunned with the culture honestly.. They seem to be over welcome… I was asked to shake hand and kiss her hand during orientation week. And for me it is not a big deal to me. However, after the orientation, this women approached me and asking me if I am willing to kiss her “tapak kaki” if I am still seeking for people signature. Do I look that stupid? How could they attempt people like that?
After 2 weeks buried myself praying for HIS mighty to guide me and provide me patient dealing with such people in the organization, I was called by IIUM. It was a great opportunity which I would not let it pass. Now, ever since I noticed, I still lost in my own desk… isolated from others. Experience in people place really taught me everything.. Everywhere I go, only HE is the best place for me to claim everything, expressing every single sadness and loneliness.
Till now and then, I kept on searching for place to be better Muslim than me now. I am so glad to be born as Muslim. And I will explained how HE guide me from lost and sometimes arguing of HIS doing till HE then guide me and HE make it comes true of what I am praying for. I don’t dare of losing HIS attention and I will try to do my best for HIM. HE always there and I am thankful for giving me such honor, trusting me. Dear Allah, how I am thankful for your existence and guidance.
I’m still sitting at the rejected furniture which hardly to define how uncomfortable I am with this place. Being assigned to a new PC a little bit brighten my day. Today, I was shocked by good news saying that I had passed my PTD examinations after 9 times sitting the examination. However, I won’t dare not to take the opportunity given by IIUM to be part of theirs. I really hope I could improve my conversation in English. I can speak but I have walls confine me. I have lack of confident. People might see I am not too bad but I just can’t help myself to be ashame of my diction. I am so much not me if you met me personally. Even, my immediate boss, Puan Shasha seems not having much confident on me when she tend to ask me whether I can converse in English.
I have to prepare and work hard on it. I want to be a PTD.. MCS!! Malaysian Civil Service. I don’t know whether I am capable enough for this.. But it is my target since I was young… to be government servant. Currently, I was 1 month old at Johor Port Authority.. Try to adjusting myself with government culture. What I can say, I was stunned with the culture honestly.. They seem to be over welcome… I was asked to shake hand and kiss her hand during orientation week. And for me it is not a big deal to me. However, after the orientation, this women approached me and asking me if I am willing to kiss her “tapak kaki” if I am still seeking for people signature. Do I look that stupid? How could they attempt people like that?
After 2 weeks buried myself praying for HIS mighty to guide me and provide me patient dealing with such people in the organization, I was called by IIUM. It was a great opportunity which I would not let it pass. Now, ever since I noticed, I still lost in my own desk… isolated from others. Experience in people place really taught me everything.. Everywhere I go, only HE is the best place for me to claim everything, expressing every single sadness and loneliness.
Till now and then, I kept on searching for place to be better Muslim than me now. I am so glad to be born as Muslim. And I will explained how HE guide me from lost and sometimes arguing of HIS doing till HE then guide me and HE make it comes true of what I am praying for. I don’t dare of losing HIS attention and I will try to do my best for HIM. HE always there and I am thankful for giving me such honor, trusting me. Dear Allah, how I am thankful for your existence and guidance.
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
Inductions Course for MOHE staffs
Yesterday, I met my friend whom are having 2 weeks Induction course at one of the hotel located in the middle of the Kuala Lumpur City Center. They started the course on last Sunday. It seems like just three days relaxing from being a lecturer. I was at first so impressed with them. How they are too talented that make them being selected and appointed as government servant or in more specific, being a lecturer.
What makes them demoralize? At first, they were too excited to enhance their knowledge. Then, only three days out of 2 weeks, they started to mumbling, they started to complaining the talks were boring and not related to their works or scope of works. Last night, I was so disappointed with the government. Why they got the job where else much more out there dying and too devoted to be government servants. like me.. hahaha.. Why they usually easily got what they want without facing big hassle towards it? Why me, from degree trying hard to make myself active in all programs and obtained not too low marks which seems still capable for the post, not having a chance on it?
Some of them don't even know how to organize events, do not even like sports (like what they announced all the govt servant should be proactive). Sometimes, I thought they are better in English till make them suitable for lecturer post. But what I experienced, teaching Mathematic- this fellow, pronounced remainder (balance/baki) as reminder. How do their students gonna take it right?
A part from that, they always proud to be what they are. They were trained to held up high their head with biggest name tag with black background.. Yes!! I am the government officer..
Last night I have read something about how to preserves the quality. Citra Karya book emphasize on office landscaping whenever talk bout how to sustain good people perspective towards the organization. And I did read clause saying how important their attire. I could not deny this but.. but they should more focus on the service delivery because.. The too much attire might make public have more negative thinking if they failed to deliver the services well.
Its a reality and I think you guys might agreed with me. Government should try to eliminate negative perspective that always come out the public mind when they frustrated with the services. Orang Kerajaan biasalah melaram nombor satu.. kerja satu tak jalan. Its hurt my feeling not because of the words that came out of their mouth, but because I am one of the voters of recent govt.
Please resign and stop wasting public money. Paying salary to someone whom not suit for it. They sometime deliberately show off in public where else if we know them in details, they are just the clerk of the office. Spending times more on chit chatting and eating.. Adoi.. stop it..
I wonder which leader can be strict to his/her subordinate. Yes, we did not practicing circus organization type where implies zero defect method however, to be more liberal, we should by now thinking of enhancing the capabilities. Why should we kept on asking for contract Grade 44 services? Why don't we focusing on making the recent officer being the best.. This should flows correctly. Lets the generation continues.. Producing leaders not leader.
At last but not least, coming post would be details on types of organizations and which categories we want our organization fall in.
What makes them demoralize? At first, they were too excited to enhance their knowledge. Then, only three days out of 2 weeks, they started to mumbling, they started to complaining the talks were boring and not related to their works or scope of works. Last night, I was so disappointed with the government. Why they got the job where else much more out there dying and too devoted to be government servants. like me.. hahaha.. Why they usually easily got what they want without facing big hassle towards it? Why me, from degree trying hard to make myself active in all programs and obtained not too low marks which seems still capable for the post, not having a chance on it?
Some of them don't even know how to organize events, do not even like sports (like what they announced all the govt servant should be proactive). Sometimes, I thought they are better in English till make them suitable for lecturer post. But what I experienced, teaching Mathematic- this fellow, pronounced remainder (balance/baki) as reminder. How do their students gonna take it right?
A part from that, they always proud to be what they are. They were trained to held up high their head with biggest name tag with black background.. Yes!! I am the government officer..
Last night I have read something about how to preserves the quality. Citra Karya book emphasize on office landscaping whenever talk bout how to sustain good people perspective towards the organization. And I did read clause saying how important their attire. I could not deny this but.. but they should more focus on the service delivery because.. The too much attire might make public have more negative thinking if they failed to deliver the services well.
Its a reality and I think you guys might agreed with me. Government should try to eliminate negative perspective that always come out the public mind when they frustrated with the services. Orang Kerajaan biasalah melaram nombor satu.. kerja satu tak jalan. Its hurt my feeling not because of the words that came out of their mouth, but because I am one of the voters of recent govt.
Please resign and stop wasting public money. Paying salary to someone whom not suit for it. They sometime deliberately show off in public where else if we know them in details, they are just the clerk of the office. Spending times more on chit chatting and eating.. Adoi.. stop it..
I wonder which leader can be strict to his/her subordinate. Yes, we did not practicing circus organization type where implies zero defect method however, to be more liberal, we should by now thinking of enhancing the capabilities. Why should we kept on asking for contract Grade 44 services? Why don't we focusing on making the recent officer being the best.. This should flows correctly. Lets the generation continues.. Producing leaders not leader.
At last but not least, coming post would be details on types of organizations and which categories we want our organization fall in.
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
Friends experience make me more beware
Now, if before I had storied lots on marriage arrangement. Today, I wanted to continue it. I experienced something that we could share. Don't ever asked your parents or family for candidates on your behalf. You know why? Whenever they got the green light, they might use it without care of your feelings.
I never said that this is a wrong doing. No, it is not. However, believe me. If you are being introduce, they are actually think that the arrangement is successful especially if it comes to be from naive person who never bother to get married.
I just jotting down my feelings not this fellow feeling. Trust me, if they want you to meet someone, they are actually already forecast for next solemnization for the family.
It happen. really. Its do happen. For Malay especially, the family will already thinking of suitable month for engagement. Then, they start to forecast for the wedding ceremony.
In order to make it become reality, your parents and siblings might seek for family supports. One by one of your uncle or any person that seems to be close to you will start do their part. Saying bout the guy/gal kindness, goodness and start to persuade you towards short circuit love and sparkle your thinking bout marriage.
This would be rise sooner after you met the fellow. erm.. Bila nak kawen? Cepat2 la nnt tak sempat nak tengok (for older people-sorry mak long) nak me sponsor hantaran? kalu u kawen, we all guarantee buat besar-besaran, dia baik orangnya, nak tunggu apa lagi, alah.. mak lang pun bercinta lepas kawen.. hahahaha apart from that, you will start pushing yourself to accept him/her. Please.. You are old enough to decide for yourself. They can suggest but they shouldn't be given the right to leads you. You, yourself to decide. not them actually.
Think carefully, for man. Although you have the quota, you should take responsibility towards woman feelings. If you got to know someone by your parents, show your willingness towards her and if you got married, think of her feelings whenever you start going out with other gal (friends) behind of her back. This is not right. Ive witness few of this in the real life. Its do make me afraid of getting string attachment with guy.
If you are gal, obviously if you are a naive gal. Do not put him full of trust. He might be good with family, with friends physically but try to investigate how his routine of life and why A MAN could not get HIS mate and need parents assistant. If only you clearly know him, then you can proceed. Know him not through your parents, his parents, his-himself but from people surround him. Get to know his friends, housemates, office mates and so forth.
I know Im not perfect, I am just sharing my thoughts and friends experienced. Those experienced do make me feel bad towards love especially marriage arrangement. Never thought this could happen. After knowing how to use blog and be blogger, I felt release and I start enhance my capability towards drafting paperworks as my ideas easily flow without need to be hardly extracted. GOOD LUCK.. For u for me (Randy Jackson) this is a simple way of being far apart.
I never said that this is a wrong doing. No, it is not. However, believe me. If you are being introduce, they are actually think that the arrangement is successful especially if it comes to be from naive person who never bother to get married.
I just jotting down my feelings not this fellow feeling. Trust me, if they want you to meet someone, they are actually already forecast for next solemnization for the family.
It happen. really. Its do happen. For Malay especially, the family will already thinking of suitable month for engagement. Then, they start to forecast for the wedding ceremony.
In order to make it become reality, your parents and siblings might seek for family supports. One by one of your uncle or any person that seems to be close to you will start do their part. Saying bout the guy/gal kindness, goodness and start to persuade you towards short circuit love and sparkle your thinking bout marriage.
This would be rise sooner after you met the fellow. erm.. Bila nak kawen? Cepat2 la nnt tak sempat nak tengok (for older people-sorry mak long) nak me sponsor hantaran? kalu u kawen, we all guarantee buat besar-besaran, dia baik orangnya, nak tunggu apa lagi, alah.. mak lang pun bercinta lepas kawen.. hahahaha apart from that, you will start pushing yourself to accept him/her. Please.. You are old enough to decide for yourself. They can suggest but they shouldn't be given the right to leads you. You, yourself to decide. not them actually.
Think carefully, for man. Although you have the quota, you should take responsibility towards woman feelings. If you got to know someone by your parents, show your willingness towards her and if you got married, think of her feelings whenever you start going out with other gal (friends) behind of her back. This is not right. Ive witness few of this in the real life. Its do make me afraid of getting string attachment with guy.
If you are gal, obviously if you are a naive gal. Do not put him full of trust. He might be good with family, with friends physically but try to investigate how his routine of life and why A MAN could not get HIS mate and need parents assistant. If only you clearly know him, then you can proceed. Know him not through your parents, his parents, his-himself but from people surround him. Get to know his friends, housemates, office mates and so forth.
I know Im not perfect, I am just sharing my thoughts and friends experienced. Those experienced do make me feel bad towards love especially marriage arrangement. Never thought this could happen. After knowing how to use blog and be blogger, I felt release and I start enhance my capability towards drafting paperworks as my ideas easily flow without need to be hardly extracted. GOOD LUCK.. For u for me (Randy Jackson) this is a simple way of being far apart.
Seeking for advice..
This is a story for us to share, to understand and to feel what will we do if this situation happened to be on us..
She is a friend of mine. We had known each other for more than six years. This fellow is a good person and always be others friends reference or best counselor of all problems that we faced. Somehow, this girl is actually too naive of love for herself.
She got introduced to one guy which she never met before and I also could not identify what is their status now. However, few days back. I had met her after couple months and she was totally differ from before. She is now getting slimmer and whenever I asked, she claimed that she need to loose her weight due to health problems.
However, as friend whom seems to know her six years ago, she never this rigid in terms of diet. But, as we know, people change. The age maybe one of the key factor that contribute towards the dietary. And its undeniable. People out there whom were bigger during uni.. happened to be smaller.. but actually they still couldn't beat me. haha.. whatever it is.. to her.. GOOD LUCK.. Are u getting married gal?? please update me!
She is a friend of mine. We had known each other for more than six years. This fellow is a good person and always be others friends reference or best counselor of all problems that we faced. Somehow, this girl is actually too naive of love for herself.
She got introduced to one guy which she never met before and I also could not identify what is their status now. However, few days back. I had met her after couple months and she was totally differ from before. She is now getting slimmer and whenever I asked, she claimed that she need to loose her weight due to health problems.
However, as friend whom seems to know her six years ago, she never this rigid in terms of diet. But, as we know, people change. The age maybe one of the key factor that contribute towards the dietary. And its undeniable. People out there whom were bigger during uni.. happened to be smaller.. but actually they still couldn't beat me. haha.. whatever it is.. to her.. GOOD LUCK.. Are u getting married gal?? please update me!
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